Child of the Air

I'm sorry, that sucks. It's possible they'll be less awful about it once they've had time to process it--that's not to excuse their behavior, but surprise and shock and stress tend to heighten people's reactions. But it's also possible they won't.

My only advice--well, other than agreeing with sorcyress's practice advice about disentanglement above--is that it might be worth trying to mentally separate the unified entity of "my parents" into "my mom" and "my dad," because my own experience is that while it's easy to assume my parents share all opinions, they often . . . don't, and deeply emotional conversations tend to work better when I have them one-on-one, and mom and dad don't feel like they need to perform the reactions the other parent expects to see.