I want to introduce your parents to ring theory. YOU are recovering from cancer-related surgery, and this is not about THEM. Any stress your situation puts on them is something they need to vent to NOT YOU. (It's also YOUR gender under discussion, but maybe if you frame the whole thing to focus on how their being upset with you over all of this interferes with your cancer surgery recovery, they'll pay better attention.) But then my approach to staying on good terms with transmisic parents worked so well for me I live on the far coast now, so I don't know.
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I want to introduce your parents to ring theory. YOU are recovering from cancer-related surgery, and this is not about THEM. Any stress your situation puts on them is something they need to vent to NOT YOU. (It's also YOUR gender under discussion, but maybe if you frame the whole thing to focus on how their being upset with you over all of this interferes with your cancer surgery recovery, they'll pay better attention.) But then my approach to staying on good terms with transmisic parents worked so well for me I live on the far coast now, so I don't know.